“If you’re not happy where you are, MOVE! You’re not a tree.” – Jim Rohn
(Muscat International Airport, Oman to Tan Son Nhat International Airport, Saigon, Vietnam)
This is it! The moment that I’ve been waiting for. It excites and scares me at the same time, but I’ve already reached the point of no turning back and made my decision to risk the unusual.
I know that there’s nothing I wanted more than to travel around the world, and I was tired of just dreaming about it. I’ll be honest with you, at this point, I don’t have that much money in savings and that creeps me out if how far will I go and how long it can sustain me throughout this journey. So instead of saving up first, I decided to try to make money along the way, continue with my plans and enjoy. (Read the article: Teaching English in Vietnam -The toughest job I will ever love.)
Meanwhile, I just want to share my journey in my previous job that I had once thrived in and later on made me feel burned out and mentally drained.
Probably, the key questions that I need to answer are “Why am I leaving and where am I going?”, lots of people want to know about these especially my boss. We’ve been taught “never lie” and give an honest reason. In my case, “I LIED”. I told my boss that I got an offer from another hotel chain in Dubai, for the same position, and IT’S A LIE.
(Read the article: I’M A QUITTER to know more about my previous job and workplace)
You might probably be asking yourselves “why does he need to lie?” Here’s the reason why;
The Backstory: During my first weeks of working with my boss, I witnessed how he insulted a colleague of mine in front of everybody. Later on, I saw a person that needed constant validation and addicted to being “right” all the time. I’d often laugh off his actions apologizing to that the same colleague he had deeply insulted and still doing the same thing over and over again. And I’m dog-tired of it. I just don’t believe in him the way he doesn’t believe in us. From that point until I quit, he didn’t earn my respect and trust, that’s why I lied.
Fast forward to May 2017, before making the big move, I’ve got an opportunity from The Westin Hotel, Qatar. I passed the interview, received the job offer on my birthday May 17 and I accepted it. After all the necessary procedures, I’m just waiting for my working visa and then I’m good to go.
Unfortunately, the Qatar-gulf rift issue arose. Honestly, I’m a bit worried during that time yet I’m still optimistic hoping that nothing bad will happen with my application.
After 2 days of waiting, I received an email saying that they need to discontinue the recruitment due to the current situation in Qatar. I’m somehow expecting that response. Still, I was so devastated, very frustrated asking myself why this thing happened? Nevertheless, I took it as a sign telling me that now is the right time to take the leap.
I often said to people that I quit my job. But I think the most accurate statement would be, I QUIT MY BOSS. I’m not the person who just quit without getting off any issues and standing up for something I believe in. It’s simple, just tell what leads you to leave and what your boss could work on in the future because sometimes people are unaware that they’re acting a certain way. This is important for your own self-worth as well.
On the other hand, later that day after receiving the regret letter, a friend of mine randomly ask me to pick one of the bible scriptures and here’s what I got, it says “Do not be afraid. Stand firm and you will see the deliverance the Lord will bring you today.” I don’t usually believe in signs but I was moved. On that the same day, I booked a one-way ticket to Vietnam without hesitation. I don’t know exactly the reason why Vietnam but that’s the first country that pops up in my mind. That’s the only time I started reading blogs about what are the things to do in Vietnam? How will I earn there? Where will I stay? And a lot more about Vietnamese culture and the people. I can’t even believe that I’d let go without a solid reason, something securely lined up or any concrete plans.
Realization: “If you feel your life is boring and want a new adventure. Don’t wait! Make a move!”
I know it’s always difficult to give up a job or any security you have. But after examining my life I knew that I was really burned out. And I wasn’t being effective and efficient anymore at work.
And for the record, I don’t hate my boss. I’ve realized that there’s a difference between having a boss you don’t like and having one that makes you want to quit. In this chapter of my life, I’ve perceived that you don’t have to hate something or someone to be done with one thing. You just have to recognize when it’s already having a negative impact on your life. Now! I want to try to do something different for myself, something that will break the barriers of social norms.
In this world, there are a lot of people that will try to pull you down. Life will drag you down, but you need to stand your ground and keep chasing those dreams. You have to believe in yourself first that you can. And be prepared to work harder. And if somehow you feel impossible to find a way out, JUMP! while you still have the strength to jump. Don’t wait until you’re ready, take the risk or else you’ll be waiting for the rest of your life.